By Jess Burnett Founder of Mind Traction, Mum of 3 and Secondary School Teacher
Photo by Denys Nevozhai on Unsplash
“I try to encourage her to study, but she’s not very good at it.”
“He’s never been good at maths.”
“She can’t spell”
“Science is not his subject area.”
“He didn’t read the novel because he’s a bad reader.”
As a teacher, you hear a lot of different things during parent-teacher interviews. When I listen to parents say phrases like the ones above, my heart breaks for that child, and I can’t help but wonder what other limiting beliefs these children have placed on them. I used to think, “it’s no wonder the child sits in class and does nothing.” Then my thoughts would immediately race to “how can I reach this student, change their mindset and help them see their true potential?” Quick disclaimer: this is not to say that those students weren’t from loving and caring homes; they were. And, I am not suggesting these parents are bad at nurturing their children either.
Parenting is a REALLY tough gig!
The reality is that those statements WERE judging, and they were limiting their child’s belief in their true potential. Comments of this nature tell a child ‘there is no point trying because you will never be the best.’ Too often, as parents, we think we are doing the right thing by letting our kids know that it’s okay not to be good at a particular subject in school. Unfortunately, we don’t stop to consider the impact that one comment about a specific subject area can have on multiple facets of their life. When a young person develops self-doubt in any area of their life, it can damage their ability to try new things, step outside of their comfort zone, and take risks – All skills we want our children to have because we know that being successful in life requires all of these things!
What SUCCESS looks like will be different for everyone. It is not necessarily about being the best or the richest, but rather about having a dream and working towards that dream so that you may live a life of happiness and fulfilment.
I believe the most important way that you can ensure your young person lives their best life is by supporting them to develop a SUCCESS MINDSET. I am working on this every day with my own three children, and I can tell you that it has made an absolute world of difference!
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As I mentioned earlier, parenting is hard work, and I am certainly not a perfect parent! There are so many stresses and pressures placed on parents every day. I have had my ups and downs, and I have without-a-doubt made limiting comments to my kids over the years.
It is impossible to get it right all the time!
But, I have committed myself to take intentional steps every day to promote SELF-BELIEF in my girls, help them build RESILIENCE, and cultivate their SUCCESS MINDSET.
I want them to achieve their dreams and live life to their fullest potential.
Personal growth and development have been a significant area of interest to me over the past decade. However, having children of my own is what finally inspired me to take the actionable steps necessary to implement it in life. I always want to ensure that I am LIVING MY BEST LIFE, which in turn allows me to teach and inspire my children to do the same. Children are like little sponges, soaking up everything around them. They learn by imitating, and they don’t miss a thing! Anyone with toddlers learning how to talk knows this all too well!
Becoming a parent for the first time changes your whole world. You have this incredible bundle of joy that you love as you have never loved anything before, but you are more exhausted and stressed than you have ever been. Often as a new parent, your mindset is not in a great place. Your mental, emotional and physical health all starts to decline, and if you don’t recognize it and take action fast, it can very quickly spiral out of control!
The arrival of my first child was the push I needed to recognize that implementing bits and pieces of the personal growth mindset techniques I had learned over the years was NOT going to cut it.
I had to be all-in.
I knew that I wanted my children to be successful and to see that they can achieve whatever it is that they dream, so I had to lead by example. I had to commit and invest the time into establishing my success mindset and making personal growth my everyday reality so that I could inspire my children to do the same. Continually working on and curating a success mindset across all areas of my life was my new reality.
Personal growth and development is something that I wish I had known more about when I was in school. Through school, I was a person who, despite doing well academically, definitely had self-limiting beliefs in many areas of my life. It’s hard to imagine what new things I might have tried if I hadn’t fallen victim to those self-imposed limiting beliefs.
No child should feel limited!
My journey now is to empower as many young people as possible to believe in themselves. To know that their abilities can change, that through effort and hard work, they can achieve whatever it is that they want for their life.
And I want to share with you everything that I have learned over the last decade!
I have been (and will always be) a sponge, absorbing the research and the studies and seeing first-hand the profound impacts that developing a success mindset can have on a person’s life.
I am passionate about sharing my knowledge and experience in simple and effective ways with other parents and educators.
I want to SAVE YOU TIME (because we know that is precious!) and support you to make immediate TRANSFORMATIONS in your life and the lives of your little ones.
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In my role as a Secondary School Teacher, I have seen first-hand the impacts that developing a positive, SUCCESS MINDSET can have on the life achievements of young people. I want to give you the tools to curate that in your children.
As an adult, a teacher and a mother, I have been able to work on all areas of my life, being intentional about fostering a positive mindset and creating self-confidence. However, self-limiting beliefs will still try to creep back in from time to time. That nagging self-doubt is why everyone needs to have a TOOLKIT filled with practical strategies to help them remain positive, resilient and confident in achieving goals and living the life they dream. I am here to provide you with that toolkit, for yourself and your kids!Having a success mindset is not something that you achieve and then tick off your list; it is an ongoing work in progress that you continue to develop and adapt throughout your entire life.
I am here to support and guide you.
My dream is to reach parents across the globe, share my tips, tools, knowledge and experience, and ensure that as many young people as possible can achieve their dreams and live life to their fullest potential.
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